Infact, the day I read it, some of my friends made it clear to me that, "Isaac, the way I see you, you are capable of getting married next year. And nothing will stop you 'cos you have everything marriage requires", I was like, "I am sorry, it's not possible" and I responded, in matter of 20years to come, I'll get married. That one is by the way.
I have come to realize some facts and truths which some of us may know and some don't, so, I'll like you to read carefully 'cos this article will transform your marital life whether you are in or you are about to go in or you are in already or even you are out (divorce). I tell you, you'll not regret you read.
I'll be saying some things here but God is the giver of the knowledge, like I said, I am not married but I can transform and reform your marriage.
Do you sense God's call upon your life, already understand His purpose for your existence; but scared to take those revealed 'bold steps' towards its fulfilment?
Are you convinced about your leading to that particular sister, but still delaying or afraid of giving a positive response to that God-sent brother after all convictions and confirmations due to the bitter experiences of others in their marriages?
Like some will say, "uuuhhhhmmm, this issue of marriage self, can I really go into it..." won't I rather be another 'Brother Paul'/'Sister Paul'?
Probably yours is about your repeated marriage failure, things not going well, inability to feed the family after wedding? And you say: "Why am I so different, why can't I succeed like others....". "Is this woman having a good fortune at all?" "Abi, she's not God's will" I am quiete sure, all this questions make you feel 'caged' and makes you scared of starting all over!
To married women, probably, sometimes ago, you once had a miscarriage, the pains you went through still keeps flashing through your mind, and now scared of getting pregnant again, you don't even want your husband to come closer?
Probably yours is about the issue of location; you know God is leading you to change your location and move to a totally strange city; but to you, it seems like a desert, and you are wondering how can 'water' flow in that desert land?
Some will say, 'I'm a man, I can do anything', I heard one popular Yoruba musician sang a song 'I can have many wives, it's not bad but if a woman has two men, it's illegal and she's a prostitute'. Permit me to tell you that if as a man, you're involved in such, you are also a prostitute, no more no less. Prostitution is not a function of the female gender, it applies to both.
As a married man, you flirt with ladies and say 'Its a man's world, I can have more than one woman'. You are not a man, you're just a boy who does not understand the principle of self control, integrity and the fear of God!
Stop deceiving yourself and allowing the devil to play with your destiny! A responsible man will take care of a woman in hundred ways not 'taking care of women' in one way. Faithfulness is a virtue, get it!
Your success is not in the hands of some foreign women or women in general, it's in your hands with God. Some men, you have allowed your erection to be your director, what do we call that? May God save you!!!!
You're adjusted and created to be a leader, why then are you allowing the devil enslave you on the laps of women. Inside of you is Rose, Precious, Peju and so on (apology if that's your name),
Let me Say this, some men don't know that for as many that you have sexual intercourse with, you form a covenant with them and carries whatever they carry too, good or bad? Unfortunately, bad most times!
Where are the young men who ought to be vibrant for God and taking the world, they are asleep in the bosom of strange women! What on earth are you looking for in another lady when you have your wife, covetousness it is called! I won't be surprised when you get stuck with one and lose your destiny!
Men, open your ears and listen, "for every Samson there is a Delilah and for every Joseph, there is a Mrs. Potiphar."
These two men were lured by a woman but the difference is the condition of their heart. No man or woman can lure you into immorality if you don't allow it, it starts from your heart, what is going on in your thought - to yield or desist?
Let's be real to ourselves, keep that thing inside your trousers, if you cannot zip up as a young man before WEDDING, you will remain zip down even after WEDDING. It is not a sin to have an erection, but it is a sin to follow the direction of that erection, if you allow your erection to determine your direction you will end up in destruction!
I am not condemning anyone, let's just call a spade a spade. Make decision to change today, it is not too late, Christ is waiting for you, to give you a great future, to re-create you, to re-mold you and make you a better person. The choice is yours, come to Jesus before it's too late.
We are in a world where people believe that they know what is right and wrong. Many are fast becoming opinionated and there's nothing no one could say that can negate their opinion. And if you do, you'll be termed being judgmental.
Many marriages have fallen, some has no trace and some it's quarrel everyday, beating everyday, do you know why? Some of the reason is Adultery and Fornication. Adultery and fornication is a common virus that has infected lots of people. Teenagers are fornicating, they call it fun; married people are having sexual relationship outside their marriage and they find justification for their escapades.
The fact that the society we live in justifies fornication and adultery to be right doesn't makes it so. How I wish people understood what's at stake than to venture into the destructive pleasure it offers.
Do you know that one thing that makes people fornicate or commit adultery is their lack of understanding?
Understanding to people is relative. Some people only understand the physical nature of things while some comprehends both the physical and spiritual implications of a thing.
If the understanding you have about fornication or adultery is only about the 'fun' you enjoy without knowing what's at stake, you lack understanding.
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It's not understanding when you're only bothered about the pleasure in sexual sin. And it doesn't even matter if you have a PhD, go to church oftentimes or you're a worker in there, you're educated, connected with informed people or you're so exposed or vast in knowledge. All of that doesn't matter.
My beloved brothers and sisters, concerning all these 'happenings', 'prunings' are all because of what God is set to do in your life which is beyond you; because He has purposed to make you an 'answer' to the problems of this generation! Your refusal to take that convinced 'step' is synonymous to saying: "Lord, don't use me...announce
Yourself through another person"! No, Beloved, you have been assigned to fulfil that great purpose and you WILL; God's grace is sufficient for you. So, GO!!!
On a final note, Marriage is different from Wedding, Wedding is a day event and marriage is a life time commitment and vow. Make your marriage count for eternity, build godly children, and not wayward ones.. Someone said marriage is an institution. I examined it and found out it's true. In an institution, when you have completed your academic program, a certificate is given to you to show what your ground and level is.. So also in marriage, the children is the certificate, they speak about the family outside, the type of family background be it good or bad.
To round off, Pastor (Dr.) W.F Kumuyi said no age bracket for marriage, you may be 15, 16, 17 or whatever age, you can get married provided you can fulfill all mandatory of the family, in terms of food, shelter and clothing.
It's a pleasure you have read....
Thank you so much, I love you.
I do have a name....
Rauf Kazeem Isaac
(C) March, 2016
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