Human Sexuality

Uhmmmmm...... It has become often and often that over the past few days, I have been posting talks/write-up about Sexual Life and the stuff, but to be frankly speaking, I do tell or ask people that "when is the last time you had a good long talk about sex with yourself?" But I hardly receive reply or responses that are factual. The reason is that they always tend to pretend to proof to people they are "HOLY". But as a matter of fact, how can we neglect such a discussion?

Well, there's no time like the present. We're constantly bombarded with sex info telling us what the benchmark is , what's right and what's wrong. Anxiety creeps into bed and we begin to question our own abilities, our confidence, even our own satisfaction. The cycle of worrying begins and the more we
worry, the more it effects our performance and our mood.

Challenging Myths
Let's get some definitions clear:

Human Sexuality is the capacity to have erotic experiences that can be of a biological, emotional or spiritual nature. It's different for everyone as our experiences are unique. When we believe blindly in the messages about sex that are constantly around us we have little option to challenge or explore these myths. The invitation is to discover our assumptions about sexual relationships and discover our unique experience of sex. The more you question and explore your own needs and expectations the closer you'll be to discovering what's right for you and debunking a lot of myths. The invitation is to question yourself and more importantly trust your answers.

How To Explore
Next time you feel a sexy urge ask yourself:

1. What was it that I was doing, thinking, feeling that made me feel this urge?

Remember urges can happen for all sorts of reasons, and at any time or place. Just because sexuality has been associated with the bedroom it doesn't mean that we don't feel the desire for sex in other places. Sex is all in the head. Notice if you were enjoying a memory of last night's tumble or perhaps had a thought about a new sexual position.

2. What assumptions am I making about ♍Ɣ urges?

Now that you figured out a little bit more about your sexy urge, how did you judge yourself? Did you automatically push it out of your head? Did you categorise it into "good girl sex" or "bad girl sex"? Was it "vanilla" or "50 shades"? Was I comfortable with ♍Ɣ urges?

Explore
Sometimes we have intense desires to explore our urges and flesh them out a bit more. Remember that exploration can take place with our partners (depending on what your partners feels comfortable with) or in the comfort of your own fantasy world and in solo self-pleasure.

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